More things you have means more Happiness?

Humans are all the same, no matter the race, colours or religion. We will always want more and never be happy with what we have. What you are earning RM2,000, you think it is not enough and want a job that pays double it asap. You have a normal Kancil that serves you for years but now you are earning more, you want a MPV that can fetch whole family at one go. If you are married with a virtuous wife, you think of that beautiful sexy girl you chance of recently. I know this is not a good example, however, that's how the world goes, isn't it. Due to this inner desire to progress, our society gets better and more convenient, but at the same time, brings out the ugly greed in us.

As for me, I have always wanted a double story house with a spacious garden so that I can rear a couple of dogs to roam freely. An fully air-conditioned house to beat the dreadful heat over here.

Then I started to study a bit about spirituality taught by Marie Callas. I realized that having a big house means having a lot of 'stuff'. Have you ever noticed how we purchase things to fill up our space? If we have large closets and bureaus -- we fill them with clothing. If we have many kitchen cabinets -- we fill them with dinnerware, silverware, bowls and pots and soon undesirable clutters fill up the house if there is no care. This will block the flow of prosperity in your house.

Does all of this sound like we need to give up what we want? Perhaps not, perhaps it means enjoying a simpler life -- a life that is a bit quieter, a bit less hurried, a bit more peaceful -- a bit more introspective. When we begin to look inward to what we really desire, to what truly fulfills us -- we stop expecting other things, other people, other situations to give us what has always been within -- what has always been most meaningful -- what has always been in our hearts.

True happiness

Reading a latest letter from Marie Callas makes me think of this question. What kind of life do we have to lead in order to be considered as truly happy. Is it living in a big house, driving a luxurious continental car, buying items from shopping malls without ever checking the price tags? Right now, many of us are not that wealthy, so dreaming of this kind of life is surely the right definition of "happiness".


What I would like to ask is that how many of these people are truly happy? A lot of times we see these people engaged in power struggles, or some sort of court cases. Do you think deep inside this is true happiness? It often turns out that due to our materialistic way of life and thought, true happiness is located outside of the self. We claim that we have been dealt bad cards but if certain circumstances were to change, we would find true happiness.

If only we could meet that perfect mate, we would be happy for all time. If only we had a better-paying and more satisfying job, we would ask for nothing else in this life. If only we were rich and famous, all our problems would fade away.

Don't get me wrong. I am not saying that striving for happiness or success is inherently evil or harmful. Quite to the contrary. Looking for success is a healthy activity for us. Yet I think we should take all with a grain of salt; everything should come with a warning sign attached to it. Be happy with who you are and what you have and enjoy the process of looking for happiness because you never know, in the end, when you cross the corner and reach your goal, it may not be what it seemed in the first place.

Kindness begets happiness

This is really a great article from the Star written by JMC dated Sunday March 30, 2008! Thought I should just share with you people on the last weekend of March 2008.

This is the way to impart the right set of thoughts to our children. As a parent, it is very important that we bond and teach them right values otherwise you'll have a little demon in the near future..Imagine the writer teaches her son saying "there's no free lunch in this world. Please don't be stupid!" I guess the kid will grow up to be a self-centered man with little compassion and love to the people around him.

Have a blessed time! :)

OUR children are what we make of them. An incident with my 17-year-old son made me realise how little things that we often take for granted can have a profound effect on the young minds of our children.

It also reminded me that life is a continuous process of learning in which everyone we come across, regardless of whether that person is small or big, young or old, man or woman, rich or poor, friend or foe plays an important role. We have much to learn from every one of them.

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Finding Happiness

Working 24/7 will not help you to be really happy unless you are workaholic. But, it is also true that, we should find joy in your work so that we will not dread working. That another skill we need to learn. But, let’s focus on enjoying today.

Take some time out and delicate the time to your favorite hobby or sports. I personally love to play soccer and watch animations. I find that when I am engross in the things I love, my mind sort of forget everything about the reality. Problems are gone! My heart becomes as light as a feather and I would laugh at myself at times. I was really enjoying and having fun! The most important thing is that I am HAPPY.

It may be short term happiness but please gives your mind and heart time to relax and enjoy too. In the long run, your heart and mind are also healthier. In addition, you will look forward in enjoying your favorite pastime and life becomes easier as well as happier.

The pursuit of happiness is not just about having everything you ever wanted, but also personal space that you can distress and enjoy at times. Now, spare some time for your hobby, I am sure they miss you as well.