Wednesday, March 11, 2009

True happiness

Reading a latest letter from Marie Callas makes me think of this question. What kind of life do we have to lead in order to be considered as truly happy. Is it living in a big house, driving a luxurious continental car, buying items from shopping malls without ever checking the price tags? Right now, many of us are not that wealthy, so dreaming of this kind of life is surely the right definition of "happiness".

Marie Callas on Happiness
What I would like to ask is that how many of these people are truly happy? A lot of times we see these people engaged in power struggles, or some sort of court cases. Do you think deep inside this is true happiness? It often turns out that due to our materialistic way of life and thought, true happiness is located outside of the self. We claim that we have been dealt bad cards but if certain circumstances were to change, we would find true happiness.

If only we could meet that perfect mate, we would be happy for all time. If only we had a better-paying and more satisfying job, we would ask for nothing else in this life. If only we were rich and famous, all our problems would fade away.

Don't get me wrong. I am not saying that striving for happiness or success is inherently evil or harmful. Quite to the contrary. Looking for success is a healthy activity for us. Yet I think we should take all with a grain of salt; everything should come with a warning sign attached to it. Be happy with who you are and what you have and enjoy the process of looking for happiness because you never know, in the end, when you cross the corner and reach your goal, it may not be what it seemed in the first place.